Overcoming Barriers to Sexual Intimacy Nancy Houston Ep 206

*Earbud warning…may want to listen without innocent ears hearing as well. 😉

This episode is about having great SEX with your husband. Whether that gets you excited or brings up fear in you, please stay and listen to my chat with Nancy Houston. She is a licensed professional counselor and sex therapist who shares candidly about how to overcome barriers to intimacy in marriage.

We talk about how to work through sexual pasts, sex after having kids, the impact of porn and sexual addiction on marriage. And how getting healing from your past experiences can draw you closer to your husband.

There’s a big learning curve to all of this. And you know too many times we treat sex as something that should be automatic and if we love each other this should just work. And that’s just not true. I mean statistically 60 percent of couples are having some sort of sexual problem right this minute. 

What we chat about:

• Why the Christian community needs to open up more about sex and healthy intimacy
• How sex drive changes for women after they’ve had kids
• The importance of foreplay for women especially
• God gave us sex as a way to bond us together with our husband
• Statistically, 60 percent of couples are having some sort of sexual problems at any given minute
• A woman’s largest sex organ is her brain
• The need for healing when you’ve experienced sexual abuse
• How Nancy processed and found healing from the sexual trauma she experienced
• Porn vs sexual addiction and the need for therapy
• God made us for intimacy
• Letting go of the negative aspects you may have built up around the idea of sex
• Raising our kids to have a healthy view of sexuality
• 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 and how it references sex in marriage
• Having your hormones checked, exercise and eating healthy can help your body be prepared for sex
• Having healthy conversations about sex with your husband (not during sex!)
• Sex isn’t meant to be a performance, it’s meant to be a way for you and your husband to connect
• Invite God into the sexual part of your marriage

Links Mentioned:

• The Power of Sex in Marriage :: Francie Winslow, Ep 61 
• The Ripple Effect of Healthy Sexual Connection :: Francie Winslow, Ep 138 
• Love & Sex A Christian Guide to Healthy Intimacy **
• https://www.affairrecovery.com/
• Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage **
• Birds & Bees with Mary Flo Ridley, “When to Have the Talk” 
• Birds & Bees–Continuing the Conversation, Ep 153 

Nancy’s recommended books:

• Celebration of Sex, by Doug Rosenau**
• Sex Facts for the Family, by Clifford and Joyce Penner**
• The Gift of Sex, by Clifford and Joyce Penner**
• Coping with Erectile Dysfunction, by Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy**
• Coping with Premature Ejaculation, by Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy**
• Rekindling Desire, Barry and Emily McCarthy**
• The Conquer Series for men struggling with sexual issues, a video series which can be purchased at Pure Desire Ministries
• Pure Desire, by Dr. Ted Roberts**

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