Hula Hoop-o-logy :: Vela Tomba [Ep 28]

Relationships are tricky (major understatement).

I think today’s podcast with my pastor’s wife, Vela Tomba, will give us words & imagery to help alleviate some of the trickiness.

Vela has been married to Neil for 30 years, is the mom to three grown girls and grandmother to one adorable granddaughter. She served with Campus Crusade for Christ (Cru) before staying home full-time.

Last summer Vela guest posted a 3-part series on the concept of “Hula Hoop-o-logy” (read the series here)

Honestly? Her thoughts on this topic have helped all (absolutely all) my relationships.

In this episode we discuss:

• What it means to stay in your “hula hoop”
• Why we need to stay out of others’ hoops
• How to transition our children from our hoop (birth) to their own (jr. high-college)
• Physical hoop issues vs emotional hoop issues
• Whether or not it is a mom’s job to make her kids happy
• Interacting with husband in light of “hula hoop-o-logy”–reflective listening
• Handling a variety of relationships with this mindset–>adult children & their spouses; grandchildren; extended family
• Difference between hula-hoops and “Boundaries”
• A Christian’s responsibility to non-believers in relation to hoops

Show Notes:

• Campus Crusade for Christ (Cru)
• “Boundaries” by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
• “Father of the Bride” 

Do you struggle with staying out of others’ hoops? Which relationship challenges you the most?