What If We Could Just Tell Each Other?

Episode 345,   May 19, 09:54 AM

We bring ourselves into life in a dance we learned right from our earliest days… in which we’re often carefully managing what we can show to one another of ourselves. And others learn to dance with us in this way too, finding out from bring around us what to talk about, and what to avoid. Pretty soon we’re all dancing around that which, if we pay attention, was in plain view all along. Oftentimes the dance feels necessary. Sometimes it is necessary. But keeping on the surface of things is hardly a way towards the intimacy, connection, contact and realness we long for. So who could we be for ourselves and for one another, so that we can bring ourselves - and all our rich complexity - into the light for the benefit of everyone around us?

We bring ourselves into life in a dance we learned right from our earliest days… in which we’re often carefully managing what we can show to one another of ourselves. And others learn to dance with us in this way too, finding out from being around us what is ok to talk about, and what to avoid. Pretty soon we’re all dancing around that which, if we pay attention, was in plain view all along.

Oftentimes the dance feels necessary. Sometimes it is necessary. But keeping on the surface of things is hardly a way towards the intimacy, connection, contact and realness we long for. So who could we be for ourselves and for one another, so that we can bring ourselves - and all our rich complexity - into the light for the benefit of everyone around us?

Hosted, as always, by Lizzie Winn and Justin Wise of Thirdspace.

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What if we could just tell each other?

Parts of us lie in quiet, sly shadows. 
Publicly undiscernible, or so we believe. 
The truth is they are experienced by others, 
Despite our internal dance to conceal them.

When we commit to something, 
And our actions “say” otherwise, 
They betray the façade we 
Made to manage others’ views of us.

If we knew, and accepted that we were visible, 
We’d know there would be no point in trying to hide. 
How people feel around us reveals so much of us. 
What if we could just tell each other?

Instead of hiding in plain sight,
we’d be open to anything anyone brought our way.
Here I am,
ready and willing to learn.

By Lizzie Winn

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